Knowing When to Stop

My mother wrote so many letters that she then tore up the following day, which reminds me of the song “Knights in White Satin,” sung by the Moody Blues.

The lyrics, “letters I’ve written never meaning to send” evoke memories of her. 

A few letters from my mom arrived cut and pasted, literally pieced together and omitting words she regretted writing. 

Several times she called to say, “Tear it up” before reading. Not after.

Yes, mailing a letter that sounds like a “howler” to the recipient can leave the sender with regrets. 

However, writing a letter that you never intend to send can be therapeutic. Especially if you throw it away.

At least, sleep on it before mailing.

Write a brief note instead

I’m sorry I wrote you such a long letter; I didn’t have time to write a short one.”

— Blaise Pascal

It does take time to sift through feelings and capture thoughts you wish to convey. Thoughts you will not regret documenting.

Think what to say before you say it. You can even draft a note before transferring words to the notecard you want to send.

Take care that what you write represents you well. A note or a letter can be quoted exactly. Shown to others.

Love overlooks faults. Mistakes in grammar, punctuation and spelling are easily forgiven when you write to someone who knows and loves you. When you sound like yourself.

The saying, “It’s the thought that counts” counts here.

Put your heart in your words and your words will reach a heart.